It’s so frustrating, we were just congratulating ourselves at Miles managing a solo toilet trip on 8 July. Now he doesn’t go at all. Not just doesn’t quite make it in time but makes no attempt, and walks around in wet pants without showing any awareness at all. It was getting so ridiculous with Holly getting through half a dozen sets of clothes a day and Nursery getting through another few sets so he’s been in pull-ups for the last week.
Ah well. Everything is a phase. We’ll have another go next week when I’m on summer leave.
He can do it now. He understands when he needs to go and how to do it. We’ve done some 3 hour drives, including a tense 5 minutes between his announcement and the next layby, and I have now been That Guy stood on the verge trying to get a toddler to pee. The problem is just motivation. Nursery have commented that he might be wetting just for LOLz; I’m not sure that’s true I can see why they might think that.
Our first idea was a sticker chart. That was ok, he quite liked the sticker chart but after a while it got boring. You know what never gets boring? Sweets.
It’s working really well for now. It also makes it easier to get a routine for the whole process (pants back on, hands washed, hands dried, then a sweet). Tic tacs are small and not many calories but it does mean small doses of sugar all day which is not good for teeth. The hope is that we will only have to do it long enough to get the routine established, then maybe we can switch to a sweet at the end of each dry day.
The other issue is that if the toilet was disruptive to bedtime before, it’s now disastrous. “Well done for getting out of bed just as you were about to go to sleep, have some sugar”.
After a discouraging first day, Miles has adapted amazingly quickly to the new regimen.
Fri 11 Apr – Didn’t make it to the toilet a single time. Loads of changes of trousers. But he did seem to get the idea that something was supposed to happen and didn’t like being wet. We’ve started though so we’ll give him at least a week.
Sat 12 Apr – Holly’s birthday and we had a morning on the beach and a party in the evening so you can imagine there was lots of excitement, other people, and laxer supervision. He was really good though and became really good at telling us “pee-pee coming”, even if it had sometimes already come. We’re trying to be really pleased when he gets there in time but not negative when he doesn’t. That’s a challenge when you’re trying to stop him treading poo round the room.
Sun 13 Apr – Amazing. We had a day out at the honey farm and an afternoon playing at home and other than one little mishap in the corner of the soft play room we were dry every time.
Mon 14 Apr – Another really good day. The only downside is that we end up going to the toilet 3-4 times at bedtime which has pretty much undone my hard work. I’ll live with that. We also had our first poo in the toilet, at bath time he didn’t tell me about it, he just looked distressed so I took him on the off chance.
Tue 15 Apr – A bit of a regression. Only one hit and a lot of misses. I think he might just have lost enthusiasm, possibly because we have a little bit. For instance, we got through a trip to tesco ok then had an accident in the kitchen. So far he has been standing on the toilet seat but today we got new seats with an inset small seat. It’s actually far more hassle than standing but it should be better practice for when he’s going by himself.